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We don't let people drive when drunk because that kills people. This comparison is ridiculous.
Eh, we may not be on the same page here. I am fully aware that there is a point of drunkenness where a person cannot really make a decision to consent to sex. However, even when moderately drunk, people still possess some of their decision making skills. I've been pretty wasted before, but never to the point when I literally couldn't make up my own mind whether I wanted to have sex or not. If a person has reached a level of drunkenness when they cannot even form the word "yes", then you are right, they cannot give consent. But you have to be pretty messed up to reach that point, and that's not an extreme I'm talking about. I'm talking about that middle ground where you are drunk but still walking around, playing beer pong, talking to people, or what have you. This is where the perceived gray area is, because although judgment is altered, it's not completely absent, so the person can legitimately still consent to sex (even if they regret it later). At this point yes, I believe the person can still consent, so I guess we do disagree. I do respect and understand your opinion on it, which is why I do not make any effort to change your mind. I think we've established how we both see it, so there isn't a need to discuss further. I just wanted to clarify my position so you don't look at me as some kind of unintelligent monster who thinks rape is ok and a just punishment for people who make mistakes, because that is definitely not what I am.@Waterbomb: To be blunt, I don't care to redefine consent and rape for people who don't understand what they are. I really don't. Also, it's clear that you disagree that people can't actually consent while drunk... which is the problem here. From where I'm coming from, you are saying that getting raped is the answer. I'd definitely qualify what happened to you as rape (though I suppose it's possible you were still sober enough to consent? IDK), but it's your right to believe otherwise. She should've done the right thing, that responsibility isn't on you.
How did jumpluff put it? Ah- why do you have a singular image of guys who have sex while drinking? What am I to you, some sort of stalker circling the skies waiting for an unrequited crush to get so drunk that she mistakes me for someone else? That's just not how it goes down. I don't tolerate any such shenanigans at my parties, and don't go to places where they are. When everyone shows up I decide if I want to hang out with a girl I know, and we start talking and working up that chemistry before anyone has a drink. A party is supposed to be fun and cool. I know there are parties that aren't. I know there are guys that "take advantage" in exactly the fashion you describe. But where I go, no one is afraid of getting raped or raping anyone. It's just not part of the equation unless deep down someone is sexist enough that they'd rape given a few less inhibitions, and I wouldn't associate with those people.if you can't get a girl to say yes when she is sober, and the only time you can get her to give in is when she can't walk a straight line or can't get behind a wheel (for fear of killing somebody), do you really think that's fine?
in a state where somebody is so impaired that they could potentially slaughter somebody or themselves behind a wheel of a car and they can't even recognize that they would do it, you really think that they can make a rational decision about fucking somebody? especially somebody who they wouldn't fuck before?
Not in college yet I see.That's irrelevant. There is no woman alive that would wear those hideous boots - especially in combination with that tank top and those shorts.
I think anyone should be perfectly responsible for what they do while they are drunk. The reason people aren't allowed to drive while drunk is because they then pose a risk to a number of other people. If drunk drivers could only kill themselves, I wouldn't have any problem with it because they'd eventually die off.holy shit you missed the point so completely i can't believe it
im not saying that having sex with somebody after having a few drinks is rape
im saying having sex with somebody who is so impaired they can't function is rape
you don't let people drive when impaired
you don't let people get tattoos when they're impaired
you don't let people fuck when they're impaired
you don't let people do shit they can possibly regret heavily later when they're impaired
its a really, really easy concept to grasp
and good for you that you aren't somebody who lets their parties have a hostile air and you personally are not somebody who preys on drunk women, and that you don't go to parties where these things happen
but your saying this means literally nothing, because just because you personally dont do it,
there are people who wait around for people to get drunk so they can have sex with them
there are parties where these people hang around
and there are people don't care what happens to the inebriated at these parties
its not like I'm being a crazy person and ranting about something that never happens, people get raped when drunk all the time
and yes, i find that to be a pretty wrong thing that i would like to see changed, excuse me for being so radical
i think you are really misinterpreting what happens in many drunk date rape scenarios. it's not "girl has a few drinks, throws herself at a guy, regrets it the next morning and now he's in prison". it's more often "drinks are pushed on girl until she is so drunk she isn't aware of what's happening to her as a guy forces himself onto her and she isn't sober enough to fight back, say no, etc" or along those lines. it's really not an ambiguous scenario - the guy pushes her to drink and uses her impaired mental state for sexual gratification, taking advantage of her inebration so she won't fight back. this isn't the kind of thing that can happen by accident.I couldn't care less if people get tattoos when they're impaired. That affects no one except themselves. If you get drunk enough, and impaired enough that you make stupid decisions, they are still your decisions. Either don't get drunk or take proper precautions (bring friends to watch your back, like a designated driver, or drink in a safer location). This is not the same scenario as dressing provocatively or crossing a dark alleyway at night or whatever garbage. This is going out with the intention of going into a state of mind where you can not make straight decisions, often with the intention of making poor decisions, and then not wanting to be held responsible for those decisions.
i think you are really misinterpreting what happens in many drunk date rape scenarios. it's not "girl has a few drinks, throws herself at a guy, regrets it the next morning and now he's in prison". it's more often "drinks are pushed on girl until she is so drunk she isn't aware of what's happening to her as a guy forces himself onto her and she isn't sober enough to fight back, say no, etc" or along those lines. it's really not an ambiguous scenario - the guy pushes her to drink and uses her impaired mental state for sexual gratification, taking advantage of her inebration so she won't fight back. this isn't the kind of thing that can happen by accident.
The majority of my post was indeed concentrating on that first scenario, which is how I interpreted Nastyjungle's post. If he's making analogies to tattoos while impaired, I'm assuming there is no pushing of drinks until the target can no longer fight back. Unless I'm sincerely mistaken about the tattoo industry.Of course, if you're talking the state of mind where you're effectively passed out, incapable of even making a decision at all, then yes it is definitely rape as there is no consent to anything.
In this scenario, the girl is at fault for not maintaining control of a situation and denying the drinks. A quote from "A Girl with the Dragon Tattoo"it's more often "drinks are pushed on girl until she is so drunk she isn't aware of what's happening to her as a guy forces himself onto her and she isn't sober enough to fight back, say no, etc" or along those lines. it's really not an ambiguous scenario - the guy pushes her to drink and uses her impaired mental state for sexual gratification, taking advantage of her inebration so she won't fight back. this isn't the kind of thing that can happen by accident.
Martin Vanger: Let me ask you something. Why don't people trust their instincts? They sense something is wrong, someone is walking too close behind them. You knew something was wrong, but you came back into the house. Did I force you? Did I drag you in? No. All I had to do was offer you a drink. It's hard to believe that fear of a offending me is stronger than the fear of pain, but you know what? It is. And they always come willingly, and they sit there, they know its all over, just like you do. But somehow they still think that they have a chance, maybe if I say the right thing, maybe if I'm polite, if I cry, if I beg. And when I see their hope draining from their face, like it is from yours right now, I can feel myself getting hard. But you know, we're not that different, you and I. Both have urges. Satisfying mine requires more towels.
That's a fucking terrible motto."If you can't make fun of it, it isn't worth taking seriously" is my motto.
rape used to be punishable by the death penalty until the 70s when those SCOTUS pussies said it was unconstitutionalrape is not good
is it as bad as killing somebody/getting killed while driving drunk? not sure, i can't say to be honest.
BINGObefore someone brings it up, someone saying they want to do something while sober does not mean you have consent when they are drunk later. being that drunk takes away one's ability to consent. simple as that.
BINGO AGAIN, LOTSA WINNERS TODAYi think you are really misinterpreting what happens in many drunk date rape scenarios. it's not "girl has a few drinks, throws herself at a guy, regrets it the next morning and now he's in prison". it's more often "drinks are pushed on girl until she is so drunk she isn't aware of what's happening to her as a guy forces himself onto her and she isn't sober enough to fight back, say no, etc"
Murder is a specific intent crime. Voluntary intoxication negates the necessary mental element of the crime. This is how the law works.If being drunk impairs one's decision making skill so much that yes does not even mean yes because one is drunk, does that mean that any killing committed while drunk is not murder, but involuntary manslaughter no matter what the circumstances are? That is the same logical argument one makes when one tries to say that a person cannot consent when he or she is drunk. It's stupid, and is a double standard. People are responsible for their actions no matter what state of mind they're in.
Actually, yes, it is. A drunk person cannot LEGALLY give consent to the act. Both have committed rape, but neither will be prosecuted (obviously).Let me put it in an easy to understand way, a girl and guy get drunk at a party, and both of them have sex. By what you're saying about consent not existing while drunk, that means that both of them have effectively raped each other by your definition. This is not how rape works.
1. Great source for your argument, quite the respected scientific study.In this scenario, the girl is at fault for not maintaining control of a situation and denying the drinks. A quote from "A Girl with the Dragon Tattoo"
Uh, Rape isn't a specific intent crime either?Murder is a specific intent crime. Voluntary intoxication negates the necessary mental element of the crime. This is how the law works.
Trying to avoid this whole discussion at all costs but can we avoid ridiculous claims like this. Are we really at the point in this discussion where we're saying unnatural death is better than being raped? It's fucking dying. That comparison is a gimme right there. I know you're bringing the law into this one DM, but sometimes the law shouldn't be how we judge actual severity of actions.rape used to be punishable by the death penalty until the 70s when those SCOTUS pussies said it was unconstitutional
killing someone while driving drunk is just criminally negligent, not punishable by death
so, yeah, I'd say it is worse
You don't have to live with the fact that you were murdered and you do have to live with the fact that you were raped. Rape victims are likely in many cases to attempt suicide after the fact so technically the rapist is putting the victim on a path where her death is more likely and is therefore responsible for her death if she does so choose to commit suicide. So yes, I agree that rape is just as bad - if not worse - a crime that murder is.Trying to avoid this whole discussion at all costs but can we avoid ridiculous claims like this. Are we really at the point in this discussion where we're saying unnatural death is better than being raped? It's fucking dying. That comparison is a gimme right there. I know you're bringing the law into this one DM, but sometimes the law shouldn't be how we judge actual severity of actions.